You like a guy or a girl, but don’t know how to approach them? Use these tips on talking to your crush and you’ll see how easy it can be to woo them!
Talking to a crush is not the easiest thing to do. You can be the smoothest talker or the friendliest chick, but every time you work your courage to walk up to a crush, you can’t help but hesitate just a bit longer, and involuntarily force a big gulp of air down your throat.
Gathering courage to talk to your crush could be a huge nightmare. Your heart pumps as though you have just seen a ghost. To top this, your mouth dries. Right at the moment when you want to utter simple words like “how are you?” you find yourself stammering. This can be really shameful more so for men.
Why is it so hard to say hello?
Firstly, you need to understand that you’re not alone.
The first step requires that you admit the fact that you are really nervous. Keeping this in mind ensures that you know how to deal with the butterflies that are eating your stomach.
Secondly, you need to realize that the longer you take to say hello, the more difficult it’s going to feel.
And thirdly, you need to recognize the reality that you’re making the whole approach harder on yourself because you’re focusing more on the odds of failure than success!
Five steps to get your crush to like you before you even say hello!
Before you ever start a conversation with your crush, use these five steps to get your crush interested in you. By using these steps, you can turn the table around and make your crush believe they’re the one who’s falling for you.
#1 Make eye contact the right way. Don’t just stare at your crush until they see you and look away. Glance towards your crush occasionally in a casual manner, look at them now and then, and always look away before they look away. And sometimes, when you’ve caught their attention, avoid looking towards them especially when they’re looking towards you.
#2 Appear interesting. Remember, you’re being judged by the people around you all the time. You may not realize it, but there’s always someone noticing you all the time unless you’re locked up inside your room. So try to look good, especially when you’re around your crush. The more interesting you appear, the greater the odds of your crush wanting to know you better.
#3 Be happy. Don’t be nervous. Nervousness isn’t cool, especially when you’re around your crush because it makes you appear awkward and boring. Try to feel comfortable in the presence of your crush. If getting comfortable takes some time *a few weeks, perhaps?* so be it.
Remember, you don’t have to profess your undying love right away. Spend a while noticing your crush and feeling comfortable around them, and at the same time, give your crush enough time to notice you and start admiring you!
#4 Common interests. You probably know enough about your crush to know what they like or don’t like, and you’d have a good idea about the activities that they like or the things they do, be it yoga classes, or having coffee at a particular place every evening. Try to find out if both of you have any common interests that could bring you closer to your crush. After all, the more opportunities to bump into each other, the bigger your chances of a happy ending.
#5 Smile! Once you start to feel comfortable around your crush, and you notice that your crush has been looking in your direction rather often, it’s time to break the ice. At the right opportunity, either when you walk past your crush, or if both of you bump into each other, just smile a warm and friendly hello. You don’t need to say anything if your heart starts fluttering. Just smile, because that’s a perfect way to get into each other’s lives!
That first conversation
If you’ve played your cards right using these five earlier steps, chances are, your crush would be just as excited as you to get to know each other. So all you need to do is play it cool, say hello a few times, and when you feel confident enough, just walk up to your crush and strike a conversation.
But this time around, the conversation won’t be a one sided affair of you confessing that you have a crush. Instead, it’ll be a conversation between two people who like each other and are excited to get to know each other better!
These tips on how to start a conversation with your crush and woo them may seem all too easy, but the truth is, it really is that easy. And you’ll realize just how simple it can be as soon as you try the first step! Thank me later! (winks)